Why It’s Sometimes Best To Be Selfish
Everything in your life wants to pull you in a direction: friends, family, co-workers, tv, books, Youtube, they all take up our mental space. So often, our present moment is the one thing that we have control of, so why do we forfeit that control so easily? Why do we let things that were obviously created to distract us, win?
You need to be selfish, and I mean that wholeheartedly. As harsh as that sounds, you are in charge of your life, no one else is. When everything in life is pulling you in every direction, you are the ONLY one who can cut through it and decide what you truly need. A positive connotation for selfishness, does infact exist. Prescribing to the idea that you come first is sometimes the best way to make sure that you are ready and healthy enough to put the needs of others first when the situation demands it. It’s the basis of humanity’s survival and progression.
In the age of collaboration, why would I recommend selfishness?
It’s not because I want us to all act like a bunch of bratty two year olds. Selfishness and rudeness aren’t synonymous in this context. We all need to love and respect each other, obviously. We also want everyone to succeed and to celebrate those around them who do so.
You are the source of your own reality. When everything in your life has told you NO NO NO or “you can’t do it” you need to take a selfish step and say “I’m going to do this for myself”. I’m going to shed anything that isn’t real in my life. If it isn’t lifting me up or driving me forward, I will make the seemingly selfish cut and drive my life towards positivity.
It's Econ 101
Our economy is based on any given surplus or lack of resources. This is something we’re taught in Econ 101. I can’t think of a more fitting analogy for life: we have 24 hours in a day and many people thow most of those hours away because society demands you to get a day job, or your scared, or your confused and don’t know where to start. Every minuscule moment counts.
Once you start getting comfortable with the idea of selfishness, you’ll realize how actually selfish you were before. Before you decide to take charge of your precious hours, you spend all of your efforts holding on to limiting beliefs. We stunt our potential progress, all in an effort to appeal to the false notion that you shouldn't be selfish if you want to succeed. We have just been focusing on the wrong kind of selfish.
Inner growth = Business Growth
The path to inner growth and business growth are intertwined. If you want to succeed in business, you must also succeed in life. There are so many different paths you can take to get there, and trust me when I tell you that every path is going to look much different from the outside than it does to you. No one will truly understand why you’re on the path you are, and it’s not your job to worry about that. Only you know where you’ve been and where you are going.
As you progress down your path, keep your goals in mind. Constantly re-analyze what you want to achieve in life. Make the decisions that will take you there, without letting what some people might construe as selfishness hold you back.
Who I am
My name is Jake Berg. I have been deemed selfish. I have been (and continue to be) hated. I am strong, I am weak, but most of all at this point in my life, I am curious. I’m curious about what life is and why we’re here. I’m curious about what I can accomplish in a day, in a week, and in a lifetime.
I want to see people get better at what they do. I live to see people find what they are looking for. It’s a sad reality that most people are stuck doing the same thing everyday and feeling hopeless that they can’t change those circumstances.
I am here as a witness to life deepest depressions and pains to tell you that life isn’t short, it’s a long and amazing journey. Every moment teems with the most miraculous energy, vigor and potential.
Today, I’m asking you to take a moment and be completely selfish. Stop everything that you think you should be doing and do that one thing that makes you completely happy. Do it. Love it. Find yourself.